Is Your Self-Worth in Other People's Hands?
David Oromith · 11 minutes · recorded September 29, 2026
David talks about what happens when we build our self-esteem on the opinions of others, which we do not know and do not control, and says it is exhausting to try. Our self-worth becomes fragile and defensive, and we treat people as competitors or validators. He closes on the Dalai Lama, who starts from common ground by seeing himself as one of 8 billion siblings, and says letting go of status can be very freeing.
David talks about what happens when we build our self-esteem on the opinions of others, which we do not know and do not control, and says it is exhausting to try. Our self-worth becomes fragile and defensive, and we treat people as competitors or validators. He closes on the Dalai Lama, who starts from common ground by seeing himself as one of 8 billion siblings, and says letting go of status can be very freeing.
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